What women are really looking for
People misunderstand the whole alpha and beta thing. What women are really looking for, beyond the superficial (but still critically important) layers of appearance and financial success, is men who are esteemed and admired by other men. It doesn’t necessarily require that subtle social deference that occurs- I think it’s more about trust and reciprocity, plus the fact that women seem to be more keenly aware of the social cues we give off as groups, when a particular guy goes off to the toilet.
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Michel Houellebecq: Populism’s Prophet
by G. Gavin Collins
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I think it’s also one of the often overlooked problems confronting young people- a lot of them don’t have any real friends. One of Simon Sinek’s key observations lies in this area, the idea that in many ways social media has supplanted friendship and romantic companionship as a means of emotional security- like a modern age Linus blanket. Add this to their quite legitimate concerns over financial worries and their prospects of ever acquiring wealth in our modern construct, and the infatuation with socialism and provoking massive social upheaval becomes more understandable, even if it is a failure in self-diagnosis.
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The stigmatization of masculinity has eroded male competence which has eroded the confidence of many boys/men. If you’re led to believe you can never do anything right, then why would you deserve a mate?
Popular culture depicts loser men having beautiful spouses in spite of their incompetence… it doesn’t depict competent, strong men as winners, but as ‘toxic’.
Men are left to think they have to be weak to win, but the reality is that most women don’t really go for that sort of thing – and the guy ends up angry and confused.